The Subculture of “Mom”

Being a new Mom can feel very lonely.  Especially at 3 in the morning while you are rocking your new baby to sleep and you can hear your partner snoring in the bedroom next door.  You feel as if you are the only person in the world awake at that moment, and that no one else would really care to know that you were awake anyway.

I guess I’ve always felt alone in this big, big world as if no one completely understands me and my point of view. Going into social situations was always awkward and as a result I was more of a wallflower type. But there is this subculture that exists and the only way to belong to it is to go through pregnancy, the birthing process and then the rigors of raising a child.  It is the subculture of “Mom”. 

My joining the “Southtowns Mom’s Meetup Group” has really changed my perspective on things.  It is unbelievable how easy it is now to walk up to a group of Moms and start talking with strangers who within minutes suddenly feel like a good friend from way back.  The topics are all easily relatable as everyone has either been through it, or is looking forward to it soon.  Advice is easy to come by, as well as understanding and commiseration.  And no matter how small an accomplishment it may be, there is always an honest “congratulations” to be given for you and your child.

This meeting, greeting and sharing makes it suddenly “easier” to be a Mom, knowing that while you may be up at 3am tending to your little one, there are other Moms not too far away, tending to their own. 

It doesn’t make you any less tired, however.

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  1. This is similar to what I’ve experienced with deaf culture… Even not being fluent in ASL, it’s like an instant reason to connect with strangers.

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